What happened in our Childhood?

The following video is related to how early life attachment and love, as well as traumatic experiences can affect us throughout our lives, particularly when our need for comfort and touch are compromised. These Rhesus monkeys illustrate how fears and anxieties can be laid down in our lives during the pre-verbal times of our lives.

Many of us have experienced profound early life traumas, and may not have ever witnessed how young primates (including humans) can be  filled with foundational fears and anxieties which are created as a consequence of these traumatic encounters.

This images are quite confronting and can begin to explain how some of our limerent behaviours, which have much to do with our need for secure attachment and the ongoing need many of us have to be soothed, comforted, embraced. 

 Such words describe aspects of being "loved" and help us to see that the necessity for the small infant and toddler to survive and to develop is  fundamentally about being touched and held, being comforted and sensing security.

These Rhesus monkeys live their experiences of attachment deprivation which radically affects their behaviour. Their restless fear and anxiety is strongly evident in everything they do, and their inbuilt instinctive need for secure parental attachment when compromised caused the infant monkeys to come terrified and profoundly insecure. They are driven by their fears to act out behaviours which reveal their anxieties at every level of their existence. 

As children, when our attachment to our parents is compromised, we too become traumatized, anxious and paranoid. The profound psychological repercussions of these early life traumas are enormous, long lasting and powerfully dictate just about every attachment transaction we negotiate throughout the rest of our lives. The anxieties we inherit from our early life steer all the uncertainties we experience as adults. 

Our limerent lives are fueled by the powerfully by the destructive effects of the deep pain we experienced, and for which we require constant soothing and reassurances. 

Early childhood traumas can influence our adult limerent relationships 


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